Tease

I’ve been told that I have a flirtatious personality by a lot of people. I laugh and smile a lot, I’m ‘handsy’. And being that 90% of my friends are male, I’m just as raunchy and sexually explicit as they are. I’m OK with the way I am because I know that I’m not actually flirting with anyone. To me, no boundaries have been crossed. Yet some guys feel I may have been leading them on.

Then there are girls, however, who blatantly flirt with men they have no interest in dating or taking it to the next level. Regardless of whether they are single, dating, or in a relationship, they make themselves appear “down for anything”, yet shy away when the time comes. Whether we want to admit it or not, girls have the ability (call it a gift and a curse) to tease men. A quick kiss here, a tight hug there, even going so far as to explicitly say what she would do if given the opportunity. But when opportunity knocks, she doesn’t answer. Fact is: Women tease men, whether intentionally or not. But some present themselves as open and available, then do an about face at the last minute, leaving the guy in a sticky and confusing situation (pun intended). My question is: Why do girls tease men? And how do men feel about it?

I can’t tell you how many articles I’ve read in female magazines titled “How to Tease Your Man and Make Him Want You!” Type in the keywords ‘how to make your man’ and Google responds with….jealous, feel special, fall in love with you, and turned on. Now, this is all good and dandy if she has good intentions and plans to follow through. But girls who tease in order to manipulate men and get their way are of a different mold. This kind of teasing is all about the deceitful promise of sex; it's a deliberate abuse of female sexual power. They lie, bat their eyelashes, wear their come hither outfit, and seduce men for a number of reasons including but not to limited to the need for attention, financial security, and even just for the fun of it and the sadistic pleasure they take in causing pain.

Many women who tease are high-maintenance and have inflated egos that some men are more than willing to stroke if it comes with a night in the sheets। Conversely, many teasers have low self-esteem and use their sexuality to hide their insecurities. Teasing can also cause trust issues in men who have been duped by these women, possibly leading them to respect women, as a whole, less. I’m not saying females should “put out” because they said they would; everyone has the right to say no. But don’t say you will if you never intended to at all.